How to deal with big change in your life

June 26, 2018



These simple 5 steps can help you if:

  • It's difficult for you to cope with change.

  • You feel uncomfortable and overwhelmed with change.

  • You are dealing with negative self-talk and thinking about the worst outcome.


1. Come up with a plan and ask yourself, "What will my life look like after the change?"


When we deal with change, it can be scary, because often times we are afraid of the unknown. So, take some control over your feelings of the unknown by mapping out a plan. Think about the end result and imagine what your life will look like after the change. If it is helpful, you may want to write down both the best case scenario and the worst case scenario. This will help you plan for the unknown so you can be prepared as you move forward with change in your life. For example, if you are starting a new job, you can write a list of things you can do before starting your new job. By doing this, you can feel like you are in control of the change, making the process easier for you.


2. Have a positive outlook and focus on opportunities for growth


By having a positive outlook about the change in your life, and accepting it, rather than rejecting it, you may find peace knowing the change may not be as bad as you thought it would be.  Many times when we go through an uncomfortable change in life, we can find opportunities for growth. Can you think of a time in your past when you went through a change, and were better off with the change? So embrace change with a positive outlook and ease the discomfort by moving forward with confidence. 


3. Visualize what your life will be like after the change


Our thoughts can have an impact on how we feel and act. When you visualize positive things happening in your life, you are creating new pathways in your brain. Set aside some time for you to sit quietly and meditate, visualize what you want your life to look life after the change has occurred. After doing your meditation, write in a journal and/or draw pictures about your visualization. By writing and drawing you are activating regions in your brain , creating the confidence you need to embrace change and accomplish your goals. 


4. Take action


After you have developed a plan, focused on opportunities for growth and visualized your life after the change, it is now time to take action. Using problem-solving and strategies for change, think about the actions you can take to remain in control and reduce stress. For example, if you are moving into a new home, write a list of action items and as you complete them celebrate your success with that little check mark next to the item. By doing this, you will gain a sense of accomplishment, and feel a sense of relief. This practice can help you remain motivated to move forward with your change. 


5. Self-care and support


As you move forward with your change in life, it is important to reduce stress by planning for self-care and reaching out for support from others. It is normal to feel overwhelmed when in the process of change; seeking support from family and friends can provide clarity by listening to other people's perspectives and experiences. If you are experiencing stress that has an impact on your daily functioning, it might be best to seek the help from a professional.  




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